Wednesday, August 8, 2012

Becoming the Bride: Trust





Trust.
It's obviously a good basis for a relationship on any level, but especially if you are a bride and you place the details of your big day in the hands of another. This could be a florist, a caterer, planner, whatever. Having someone who gets you and shares your aesthetic or understands yours is a huge deal. 
I think my best decision so far in this wedding planning process was to turn this all over to a wedding planner, or in my case, two. Anita Hogin and Hugh Howser at Hthree Events are amazing and I'm sure can work with any bride. However, they understand me. That is so important because I come from a mother and grandmother who have planned and executed weddings for as long as I can remember. I have been right there in the middle of it all many times and I know firsthand how stressful it is to get everything planned out perfectly, each detail tied seamlessly in and every flower carefully selected. It is tons of fun when we do weddings together but also quite a bit of stress getting things done perfectly in a small amount of time. The end result is always amazing. 
I just really wanted my mother and grandmother (and myself) to enjoy the moments leading up to the wedding, and relax and primp all day on November 3 so that they can relish in the moments of being the mother of the bride and the grandmother of the bride rather than being the florist and the director. This is my mom's only chance of being mother of the bride and my grandmother's first to be a hot grandma (I mean, duh, she is anyway) walking down the aisle. 
That is why I knew I had to hand it over to someone I trusted and who I knew could match the ridiculously high standards of wedding execution that the two ladies in my life have set for me. I already knew Anita and Hugh, having worked with them at a magazine before, and I knew their attention to detail and every last inch and second of my wedding would be taken care of. That has put me at ease and I've really not had a lot of stress (knock on wood!) during this process. That all leads back to trust…so how do you trust someone you don't know to execute the most important day of your life? Research. Ask people you know who they have used, what awesome weddings they went to that they loved, and find what draws you to them. In Nashville, there are tons of great planners out there. It is just a matter of really perusing their sites and meeting with them and talking to them in depth about what you want. 
I'm not talking about just a wedding planner here. If you're planning your wedding yourself, odds are that you will have someone on the outside doing something for you. For example, your photographer. They know how to take a good shot and most likely how to take unique shots of special moments. If there are specific things you want captured, let them know. Definitely do not mess with their art though. Do your research first and make sure you like everything you see in their portfolio before you hire them. I love the work of Lily Glass despite the fact that I went to school with her. Even if I didn't know her, I would love her work. (PS-Lily just had a precious baby girl!) That is where your meticulous research comes in…I didn't have to hire her because I knew her but I had to hire her because I loved her work. I also got to know what it is like to be her photo subject as a bridesmaid in my friend Holly's wedding. If you have had a friend get married recently or were in their wedding and felt comfortable with the photographer, then your best bet is to go with that photographer. 
I can say the same for florists. Flowers are a huge deal to me because I'm used to my grandmother being surrounded by buckets of flowers, sweating her butt off and doing a crazed Tazmanian-devil type of whirlwind, then having a gigantic display of fluffy flowers. Just like that. So someone is going to have to live up to that. I don't know my florist first hand. I've met him, I like him, I have no doubt he does great work…but I don't know him like I do my planner and my photographer. Again, that is where trust comes in. I trust my wedding planners immensely. They use this guy all the time, so that means he's good. I have to have faith that it will be spectacular. 
I'm doing my own invitations. I trust myself. That one was a no-brainer…but I have LOTS to say about trusting your stationer. Too much for this post, so we are saving that for another day! I will leave you with this thought-don't attempt to make your own invitations-trust a pro to do it!

By the way, I'm starting this "Becoming the Bride" series to give advice along my journey leading up to the November nuptials!

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